After being clear that you have a cancer diagnosis, answers to these questions will give you confidence.
You have been down the path of diagnosis, and been advised for surgery. Now you have to face the emotional rollercoaster, and (often) time pressure, to deal with some of the most important decisions in your life. The most important part of your decision is to enhance confidence in yourself that post surgery will not become a “Monday morning quarterback” experience, regardless of the outcome.
Recovery- Although recovery might seem as part of the options for surgery (unless that particular patient won’t rehab properly to certain surgeries regardless of the surgery results) it is a section that is dealt with post operation. Here are some of the reasons:
Make your appointment worth it. Understand your limits.
What is the trick to asking questions?
Reactive patients ask because:
1) Need for information- Not quite informed so we ask a question hoping the doctor doesn’t think we are stupid. Really, the doctor didn’t tell us enough information
2) Need to be noticed- Got the basic idea, but need to show the doctor we are in the know and want as much info as possible
3) Hopelessness- Nerves took over so what the heck, ask
4) We can’t get out what is on our mind- So we just ask questions hoping the doctor picks up the non-verbal points to give the proper explanation
Proactive patients ask:
With the purpose of making a likeminded team.
Good questions are a way to develop a new “patient doctor” team. The questions are just used as a way to lead the conversation. Conversation then develops into a give and take, viewed like an interlocking zipper that continues to connect as you pull. The new team needs to pull together to zip up. The good questions are now part of therapy, like a closure to all procedures. Once there is chemistry, with questioning and proper responses, there is willingness towards one another to work together.
Tip: Asking good questions to make a team doesn’t mean you have chosen a doctor, it just gives you the best chance to have a feel which direction you will be led in.
A–allow for truth B-find the best C–clarify with tools you know well D-be determined E– speak to the One who executes results
Congratulations proceed with confidence